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Divine madness.

The madness of falling in love, though disruptive, can open our eyes to see the divine in our beloved. Pretending eternal passion as the sole basis for marriage builds impossible expectations. Might we not better cherish our loved ones by setting them free?

This morning I’m going to talk to you about a particularly virulent and dangerous form of divine madness, which is called falling in love—which is, from a practical point of view, one of the most insane things you can do or that can happen to you. Because in the eyes of a given woman or a given man, an opposite who, though to the eyes of everybody else a perfectly plain and ordinary person can appear to be God or goddess incarnate, to be such an enchantment that one can say in the words of an old song which probably dates me, “Every little breeze seems to whisper ‘Louise’.”

And this is an extraordinarily disruptive experience, a subversive experience in the conduct of human affairs, because you never know when it will strike or for what reason. It’s something like contracting a very chronic disease, once you get into it. And we try to resolve it sometimes by making it the basis for a marriage, which is an extraordinarily dangerous thing to do! And this is because, in Western civilization, we have a tradition of the family which is very curious and which would seem to be the most ridiculous composition of disparate ideas imaginable.

When we go back to the origins of Western civilization in the Hebrew and Christian traditions, we find that the idea of marriage and the experience of falling in love are really rather separate things. Because in those earlier times, in agrarian cultures, nobody ever chose their marriage partner. There are certain exceptions to this, that, in ancient Greece, you occasionally find a woman who is called a Parthenos , which has been mistranslated “virgin.” The correct meaning of Parthenos is a woman who chooses her own husband. And there were very few of them. And in that passage in the book of the prophet Isaiah, where it says, “Behold, a virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and his name shall be called Immanuel,” that is in Greek Parthenos : “a Parthenos shall conceive.” And it therefore has nothing strictly to do with a virgin, although a woman who chooses her own husband might conceivably be a virgin.

But, by and large, a marriage was an alliance of families. And it was contracted not simply for the purpose of raising children, yes, but also to create a social unit smaller than a village. A village, therefore, being a cluster of families, and these families were rather large. So families allied. The oldsters, the grandpa and grandma who had an enormous voice in who their children were going to marry, used to, as you know—I suppose this is no news to any of you—used to bicker and use go-betweens. And they considered not only whether this girl was suitable for their son and vice versa, but also what kind of a dowry she would bring, whether it would be advantageous to the two families to form such an alliance, and, of course, these things (almost up to quite recent times) were always important in the marital affairs of royal families. But as is notorious, all royal families and kings and queens kept concubines and had outside arrangements when and if they should happen to fall in love. And even if they didn’t, they had mistresses simply to prevent monogamy from becoming monotony.

So that is the basis, you see, and that is why to this day, marriage is a civil and/or religious ceremony, the basis of which is a contract, a legal contract, which one signs on the dotted line. And therefore there are all kinds of laws, as laws relate to contracts, that this contract is very difficult to get out of. The rationale for that being quite obvious: that society believes that it requires a secure environment for children, but also just the general stability of things. Because when people break up a marriage, it’s sort of unnerving for everyone. You see a couple, and you think for a long time that they’re the happiest and best adjusted couple you ever met. The next thing you know is that they’ve split up. And you begin to think: now, what goes on here? Are all my friends crazy? Because you see people breaking up all around. Of course you call it breaking up—that’s a put-down phrase, “to break up,” especially. It sounds like smashing something, as if there’s something precious that’s been smashed. Whereas it may be something quite different altogether, depending on how you evaluate it.

But now, into this kind of feudal conception of marriage, there came in—very largely, I think, as a result of the poetic movement that was centered in southern France in Provence in the Middle Ages—what is called the cult of courtly love . This is something about which scholars dispute. According to one theory, the nightly or courtly lover, who was also a poet, would select a lady to be his heart’s desire—preferably a married lady—and he would yearn for her, and sing songs under her window, and send messages to her, and little tokens of his devotion. But according to this particular theory he must never go to bed with her. Not only would that be adultery, but it would spoil the state of being in love. That it should always be an unfulfilled state and an unhappy state. This is the theory of Denis de Rougemont in his book Love in the Western World or Passion and Society (it has two titles).

And the other theory is probably more realistic. This was, first of all, the great ladies of the noble families were awfully bored, because their husbands were always out hunting and making war and wenching and so on. And therefore they had to have lovers, too. And so they did indeed have adulterous affairs on the side. And a great deal of poetry rose out about this. Because, you see, my friend Yanko Varda always says that laws about sexual relationships should never be liberalized. There should always be strict disapproval of adultery and fornication, because if there is not that strict disapproval and if it’s not difficult to attain, it’s less fun. And I have worked out—those of you who’ve read my book Beyond Theology —I’ve worked out a whole theory of the Christian repression of sex: that the secret intent of this was to make people more interested in sex. Because if there is complete liberality and promiscuity in every direction, it all becomes so easy that it might indeed be in danger of becoming a bore. And then people would seek other dissipations of perhaps a less healthy kind.

So then, as a result of the gradual fusion of these two approaches to the relationship of the sexes, we have arrived at the idea of the romantic marriage in which the two trends are misallied, to say the very least. You are supposed, therefore, to fall in love with someone, and of your own choice—naturally, it has to be that way if you’re going to fall in love, if that is a choice—and then enter into that relationship with a legal contract in which you get up before a magistrate or a priest and do solemnly curse and swear that you will be faithful to each other until death do you part—which leads often to murder! And it seems to me perfectly obvious that two young people who are extremely anxious to get into each other’s embraces, and the only way of doing so under the circumstances is entering into this contract, will naturally be ready to promise em to fulfill this desire.

And while there are indeed many, many legally married couples who have a very, very happy alliance that goes on all their lives, and we don’t hear about them because good news is never news, it’s only the unhappy couples who make the newspapers. And there are enormous numbers of them. But they are mainly, I think, people who are lucky. There is no way of making a marriage work, so far as I know, because every attempt to make a marriage work, secretly, within the breast of each partner, builds up hostility. You can—I know all this; I’m speaking from a certain amount of bitter experience. You can work very hard to keep a marriage together. And as you do so, you may fail to recognize, you see, that you are being untrue to your own emotions. And you think: “Well, I must control my emotions.” For the sake of children, for the sake of society, for the sake of everything like that.

And so you work and work, and one of the ways of working is to try to convince yourself that you’re in love. And you go through the pretenses of love. You hypnotize yourself with loving language towards your partner. You go out of your way, you make little lists to remember attentions you must pay. You keep a diary in which you remember your wedding anniversary, because you’re very liable to forget it. And all these things—and you really work it. Now, the more you work it, the more you’re building up promises and expectations for something that you are probably not going to come through with at the level of deep feeling. And everyone is well aware of that. It is a Hintergedanke . You know it in the back of your mind. And so you build yourself increasingly into a wall-to-wall trap. And so the mutual hostility grows worse and worse and worse, so that one psychologist was recently known to ask a patient, “With whom are you in love against?”

The most awkward form of falling in love is between people who are already married to someone else. Because, you see, this is a cataclysmic and disruptive experience in our present social order. And we know of, I mean, Victorian novels. A lot of people are still living out Victorian novels. But in Victorian novels the great thing is where a couple, madly in love with each other, say to each other: “Well, it’s best for us that we don’t see each other anymore. This is becoming bigger than either of us,” you know? And so this fantastically mad experience is denied, swept under the rug, and strangled. What should one do?

Well, as I’ve often said, I’m not a preacher and therefore I don’t know what you should do. But I would like to make some reflections on this particular form of madness and to raise again a very disturbing question. And this disturbing question is as follows: is it only when you’re in love with another person that you see them as they really are? And in the ordinary way, when you’re not in love with people, you see only a fragmented version of that being. Because when you’re in love with someone, you do indeed see them as a divine being. And suppose that’s what they are truly. Your eyes have, by your beloved, been opened—in which case your beloved is serving to you as a kind of guru, an initiator. And that is why there is a form of sexual yoga, based on the idea that man and woman are to each other as mutual guru and student. And through a tremendous outpouring of psychic energy in total devotion and worship to this other person (who is, respectively, the goddess or the god), you realize by total fusion and contact with the other organism, you go down to the divine center in them, and it bounces back, and you discover your own.

Or you could put it in this way, which is another aspect of it: that, by falling in love, and regarding falling in love not just as a sort of sexual infatuation—because it’s always more than that, isn’t it? I mean, you can have a great sexual enjoyment with a pleasant friend, you know. But you may do so simply because he or she appeals to your aesthetic senses. But when you fall in love it’s a much more serious involvement. You just cannot forget this person. You feel miserable when not in their presence. You’re always yearning: “Let’s see more of each other! Let’s get together.” We’re completely entangled. And then, you see, you’ve—actually, a kind of (what I will call) spiritual element has been introduced. And the Hindus were sensible enough to realize that this was a means of awakening, enlightenment, and therefore it was surrounded with a sort of religious ritual meditative art; with a form of sexual yoga that is designed to allow the feeling of mutual love to the extent of grand passion to have an extremely fitting fulfillment and expression.

Falling in love is a thing that strikes like lightning, and is therefore extremely analogous to the mystical vision. We don’t know how, really, people attain the mystical vision. There is not, as yet, a very clear rationale as to how it happens. Because we do know that it is opened to many people who never did anything to look for it. Many people, especially in adolescence, have had the mystical vision all of a sudden without the slightest warning, and with no previous interest in that kind of thing. On the other hand, many people who have practiced yoga or Zen disciplines or what you will, for years and years and years, have never seen it. And in both classes there are of course exceptions. There are those who have never had this spontaneous experience, and there are those who, through yoga or Zen, have attained this insight. But as yet we are not clear as to why it comes about. And if there is any method of attaining it, the best one is probably to give up the whole idea of getting it. But, you see, it is completely unpredictable. And so it is in that way like falling in love: capricious and therefore crazy. But if you should be so fortunate as to encounter either of these experiences, it seems to me to be a total denial of life to refuse it.

And what we therefore have to admit in our society, so that we can contain this kind of madness, we must be far more realistic about the marriage arrangement so that it can contain the possibility of falling in love. When you base marriage, you see, on falling in love, and you go into a pseudo love affair which is simply hot pants, and set up a rigid family in which you expect of the other person that they will always be in love with you, and then (in that context) you go and fall in love, then your falling in love is of necessity disruptive of the marriage and of the family. But, you see, it could only disrupt it because the love relationship between the two partners was false, was pretended.

But if marriage were based more on the old idea of the reasonable contract between two people to bring up children, who are maybe expected at the best to be good friends, and to allow each other to be persons—that is to say, in the ordinary sense of the word “person:” to have their own freedom—then, if love strikes, it is tolerated within this arrangement—provided you not to be so unreasonable as to go on to say, “Well, since I’ve fallen in love with somebody else, I must marry them.” Well, it’s perfectly ridiculous! You see, in this way we can think about and structure the necessary stable social institution of family of some kind without it being constantly threatened of foundering on the rocks of love.

Now, you see, this then means that when people marry, if they take any vows at all to each other, instead of saying that they will always be true to each other in the sense of meaning “I will always love you,” it means I will be true to you in the sense of “I will always be truthful to you.” I will not pretend that my feelings towards you are other than what they are. Because I marry you because I think that you are a reasonable person to live with, and therefore I want you to be you. I don’t want you to be someone else. I don’t want you to be a rubber stamp of me. How boring that would be! So it is really an arrangement not of, as we always say jocularly: did you get the ball and chain on him, but an arrangement in which people set each other free and make an alliance to cooperate with each other in certain ways. Now, if it should so occur that they are of immense sexual attraction to each other, so much the better. But this should not be a primary factor in entering into marriage. Admittedly, you must be to a certain extent attractive to each other, otherwise there will be no progeny. But this seems to me to be a sensible and reasonable view. And, just because it is sensible and reasonable, it can accommodate what is not sensible and reasonable—which is falling in love.

We should regard, then, marriage—especially if it should possibly be called holy matrimony—as a mutual setting free of two people to live together in freedom, and therefore in responsibility. Because the present situation, although it’s pretending to be responsible, is in fact extremely irresponsible. Because it is dishonesty with respect to the way you feel towards another person.

Well now, really, when we go back, then, to falling in love and say—it’s crazy: “falling.” You see? We don’t say “rising into love.” There is in it the idea of the fall. And it is goes back, as a matter of fact, to extremely fundamental things. That there is always a curious tie at some point between the fall and the creation. Taking this ghastly risk is the condition of there being life. You see, for all life is an act of faith and an act of gamble. The moment you take a step, you do so on an act of faith. Because you don’t really know that the floor is not going to give under your feet. The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith! The moment you enter into any kind of human undertaking in relationship, what an act of faith! See? You’ve given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done: surrender. See? And love is an act of surrender to another person. Total abandonment: “I give myself to you. Take me. Do anything you like with me.” See?

So that’s quite mad. Because, you see, it’s letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control. Watch it! Watch it! Watch it! Security! Vigilance! Watch it! Police—watch it! Guards—watch it! Who’s going to watch the guards? So actually, therefore, the course of wisdom—what is really sensible—is to let go, is to commit oneself, to give oneself up. And that’s quite mad. So we come to the strange conclusion that in madness lies sanity.

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Meaning of Falling into Love by Alan Watts

The song "Falling into Love" by Alan Watts explores the deep and profound nature of love and the act of surrendering oneself to another person. The lyrics delve into the idea that falling in love is not a rational or controlled process, but rather a leap of faith, a willing act of giving oneself up entirely.

The opening lines suggest that love is associated with a "fall," contrasting it with the concept of rising. This metaphor implies that love is not an ascent or a gradual climb, but rather a plunge into the unknown. This connects to a more fundamental aspect of existence, where creation itself is intertwined with the risk and uncertainty of a fall. In this sense, the song implies that love is inherently linked to the essence of life, which requires faith and a willingness to take chances.

The lyrics go on to contemplate the act of surrender and its power. Love, as an act of surrender, involves giving oneself completely to another person, abandoning control and allowing things to unfold naturally. This notion is portrayed as both mad and powerful, as it defies the sensibilities of keeping things in control and defying the constraints of security and vigilance.

The conclusion drawn from this exploration is that in letting go, in embracing madness, one finds a deeper form of sanity. This suggests that surrendering to love, relinquishing control, and accepting the unpredictable nature of relationships can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic experience of life.

Overall, "Falling into Love" encourages listeners to embrace the irrational aspects of love, to let go of control, and to surrender themselves completely, highlighting the transformative power and inherent beauty found within this act of vulnerability.

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Falling in Love | Alan Watts Divine Madness Speech

Love. A four letter word with the power to heal. The power to forgive. The power to drive a sane man mad. Alan Watts gave a speech titled Divine Madness which perfectly illustrates the petrifying and magnificent power of love.

“Well now really when we go back then to falling in love. And say it’s crazy falling. You see we don’t say rising into love. There is in it the idea of the fall. And it is goes back as a matter of fact two extremely fundamental things that there is always a curious tie at some point between the fall and the creation. Taking this ghastly risk, is the condition of there being life. You see, for all life is an act of faith and an act of gamble. The moment you take a step, you do so on an act of faith, because you don’t really know that the floors not going to give in to your feet. The moment you take a journey what an act of faith. The moment you enter into any kind of human undertaking in relationship what an act of faith you see you’ve given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done surrender see and love is an act of surrender to another person. Total abandonment. I give myself to you. Take me, do anything like with me. So, that’s quite mad because you see it’s letting things get out of control all sensible people keep things in control. Watch it, watch it, watch it. Security. Vigilance. Watch it police, watch it Gods, watch it , who’s going to watch the Gods? So actually there for all the cost and wisdom what is really sensible is to let go that is to commit oneself to give oneself up and that’s quite mad, so we come to the strange conclusion that in madness lies sanity.” - Alan Watts

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The Philosophy behind Falling in Love Explained ― Alan Watts | HappinessDhaba

Well now really when we go back to falling in love. And say, it’s crazy.

Falling. You see?

We don’t say “RISING IN LOVE” . There is in it, the idea of the fall. And it goes back, as a matter of fact, to extremely fundamental things. That there is always a curious tie at some point between the fall and the creation.

Taking this ghastly risk is the condition of there being life. You see, for all life is an act of faith and an act of gambling. The moment you take a step, you do so in an act of faith because you don’t really know that the floor’s not going to give under your feet. The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. The moment that you enter into any kind of human undertaking in a relationship, what an act of faith.

See, you’ve given yourself up.

But this is the most powerful thing that can be done: surrender. And love is an act of surrender to another person. Total abandonment. I give myself to you. Take me. Do anything you like with me. 

So, that’s quite mad because you see, it’s letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control.

Watch it, watch it, watch it. Security? Vigilance Watch it. Police? Watch it. Guards? Watch it. Who’s going to watch the guards?

So, actually, therefore, the course of wisdom, what is really sensible, is to let Ago, is to commit oneself, to give oneself up and that’s quite mad. So we come to the strange conclusion that in madness lies sanity.

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In Wednesday’s post, Maturity in Dating , I basically explored a more recent paradigm shift in my own approach to and understanding of dating rooted in, I think, some more authentic self-esteem rooted in having a better understanding who I am, what I enjoy, what I want to do, etc. I think, a possibly useful little snippet here from Mike Tomlin would be: ‘there ain’t nothing mystical about it.’ I don’t know if that perfectly makes sense for what I’m attempting to communicate—but.. it feels right.. so.. we’re gonna go with it! Just like Adam, Jen, and Brooklyn. Lol.

Getting Jiggy With It

No pun there. I wanted to think of a pun but couldn’t come up with anything. And then, just there, for the last sentence, I was hoping to maybe make a pun-recovery by coming up with a pun, and then there’d be some sense of making-a-pun-about-not-making-a-pun—but, alas, I came up short. Same thing applies to that last sentence. And that one too. And so on and so forth. Ahh circularity. What a mystery! Okay, we’re just looking at an Alan Watts’ quote today. About Love. Capital ‘L’ cause I’m feeling frisky like that. Ooo. Les do it.

This morning I’m going to talk to you about a particularly virulent and dangerous form of divine madness, which is called falling in love. Which is, from a practical point of view, one of the most insane things you can do or that can happen to you. Well now really when we go back then to falling in love and say, ‘it’s crazy.’ Falling, you see? We don’t say, ‘rising into love.’ There is in it, the idea of the fall. And it goes back, as a matter of fact, to extremely fundamental things. That there is always a curious tie at some point between the fall and the creation. Taking this ghastly risk is the condition of there being life. You see, for all life is an act of faith and an act of gamble. The moment you take a step, you do son on an act of faith because you don’t really know that the floor’s not going to give out under your feet. The moment you take a journey, what an act of faith. The moment that you enter into any kind of human undertaking in relationship, what an act of faith. See, you’ve given yourself up. But this is the most powerful thing that can be done: surrender. See, and love is an act of surrender to another person. Total abandonment. I give myself to you. Take me. Do anything you like with me. See, so that’s quite mad because, you see, it’s letting things get out of control. All sensible people keep things in control. Watch it, watch it, watch it. Security? Vigilance? Watch it. Police? Watch it. Guards? Watch it. Who’s going to watch the guards? So, actually, therefore, the course of wisdom, what is really sensible, is to let go; is to commit oneself, to give oneself up—and that’s quite mad. So we come to the strange conclusion that in madness lies sanity. - Alan Watts, Falling into Love (carveout: Above & Beyond - Small Moments in Madness (Taglo’s Alan Watts Re-Touch )

I like it. There’s something beautiful in there somewhere. I think I’m possibly a pretty massive Alan Watts fan. Although, I really don’t know much about him—and haven’t conscientiously explored his work and life and etc. I think I do know that he was maybe a serial adulterer—so then there’s some degree of moral ambiguity associated with allowing yourself to be moved by the teachings of someone that’s done bad things. But, then, I think that’s basically all of humanity. I guess Martin Luther King Jr. is another good example of this dynamic. I suppose the deeper truth and beauty lies in accepting the fundamentally imperfect nature of all that is. Maybe? I don’t know. It kind of is beautiful, in a certain light, that people have such incredible capacity for massive good and massive bad. It’s just interesting. Maybe will explore further in the future. Maybe won’t. Who knows!

Concluding Remarks

Alright, have a good weekend, spread love, blah blah blah—I’m tired boss (s/o James Harrison). Good day.

With infinite zest for life,

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